Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Rules to live by?

 As I walk this strange world we live in I find myself sometimes lacking in faith. Not in God or Jesus, or really any other deity. I lack faith in myself, not for any one reason but a multitude of them, all put forth just a bit of doubt or negative self thoughts which when combined together can on occasion cause my depression to get really bad.
It's in the times between that I find myself thinking more and more these days. The times between anxiety attacks and bouts of depression that leave me wishing more that I was dead than alive. So in the midst of all these things I think, at great lengths until my mind and its small village of individuals all agree or we throw our collective hands up.
One of my largest issues was trying to decide now where to derive my values. I am lost to conventional religions because I know to much and have seen to much to simply accept what they propose. So in my search I came to the conclusion that if a man cannot stand upon what he believes to himself to be right and just then he is not serving himself or any other man but rather sin.
As I walked and thought to myself I came to a general consensus within about all the usual things, thou shalt not kill is so vague that it seems that all of the Judeo Christians just said fuck it to that one. I mean how easy is it to understand THOU=YOU SHALT=SHALL NOT KILL= NOT KILL. Its left so clearly unclear, right?
Basically I looked at what was generally considered to be just and right in the world and then I considered how often it happened, so I added a rule in there somewhere about helping people when you know they need it and cannot ask. But overall I thought I did pretty good. Its not written in stone or codified in some dusty basement at the research department of an Ivy league school but for ME it means just as much.
Having a set of values all your own means a lot and it is nice to have something to live for. If I cannot have faith in a god then perhaps I can at least have faith in myself and my fellow human beings.
Never one to leave the argument alone I continued to think and refined my thoughts and ideas and I found myself examining more where my ideas for what is right and wrong came from. Then the frightening idea that most of my core values came from my mother occurred to me. The more I compared my “core” values to those of most people on the planet, or what I grew to call the societal norm, the more that I found them to be wildly divergent in some ways and alarmingly similar at other times.
So it was in the vein of this introspection that I was watching random things on you-tube one night and I ran into a video by a gentleman that is an outspoken representative of the logical folks on this planet.
While I will include the link for this video I wish to make a point for your introspection so following is a list of... commandments if you will and basic rules to live by. All of them things that I found to be my own core values now without ever having read or heard of them. The core here being that there is a great deal of commons sense involved.

  1. Stupidity
    The top of the list for Sins. The Cardinal Sin. It’s too bad that stupidity isn’t painful. Ignorance is one thing, but our society thrives increasingly on stupidity. It depends on people going along with whatever they are told. The media promotes a cultivated stupidity as a posture that is not only acceptable but laudable. Humanity must learn to see through the tricks and cannot afford to be stupid.
  2. Pretentiousness
    Empty posturing can be most irritating and isn’t applying the cardinal rules of Lesser Magic. On equal footing with stupidity for what keeps the money in circulation these days. Everyone’s made to feel like a big shot, whether they can come up with the goods or not.
  3. Solipsism
    Can be very dangerous. Projecting your reactions, responses and sensibilities onto someone who is probably far less attuned than you are. It is the mistake of expecting people to give you the same consideration, courtesy and respect that you naturally give them. They won’t. Instead, you must strive to apply the dictum of “Do unto others as they do unto you.” It’s work for most of us and requires constant vigilance lest you slip into a comfortable illusion of everyone being like you. As has been said, certain utopias would be ideal in a nation of philosophers, but unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately, from a Machiavellian standpoint) we are far from that point.
  4. Self-deceit
    Another cardinal sin. We must not pay homage to any of the sacred cows presented to us, including the roles we are expected to play ourselves. The only time self-deceit should be entered into is when it’s fun, and with awareness. But then, it’s not self-deceit!
  5. Herd Conformity
    It’s all right to conform to a person’s wishes, if it ultimately benefits you. But only fools follow along with the herd, letting an impersonal entity dictate to you. The key is to choose a master wisely instead of being enslaved by the whims of the many.
  6. Forgetfulness of Past Orthodoxies
    Be aware that this is one of the keys to brainwashing people into accepting something new and different, when in reality it’s something that was once widely accepted but is now presented in a new package. We are expected to rave about the genius of the creator and forget the original. This makes for a disposable society.
  7. Counterproductive Pride
    That first word is important. Pride is great up to the point you begin to throw out the baby with the bathwater. The rule of thumb is: if it works for you, great. When it stops working for you, when you’ve painted yourself into a corner and the only way out is to say, I’m sorry, I made a mistake, I wish we could compromise somehow, then do it.
  8. Lack of Aesthetics
    This is the physical application of the Balance Factor. Aesthetics is important in Lesser Magic and should be cultivated. It is obvious that no one can collect any money off classical standards of beauty and form most of the time so they are discouraged in a consumer society, but an eye for beauty, for balance, is an essential tool and must be applied for greatest effectiveness. It’s not what’s supposed to be pleasing—it’s what is. Aesthetics is a personal thing, reflective of one’s own nature, but there are universally pleasing and harmonious configurations that should not be denied.

These are just examples I found in one source that I found when reading. The simple sense within these basic declarations of how we can and should live life is undeniable. The reference to both lesser and greater magic is a reference to certain psychological tools that are available to every person on this world. They are not evil or bad, they simply ARE aspects of what it is to be human.
When we go through our day to day lives searching for meaning and hiding from our issues. We live in a haze so thick and complete that coming out of it feels as if you have emerged from a long sleep. We lose our minds and wander lost looking mostly for the same few simple things. Love, happiness, a place to lie down and sleep at night safe and warm.
While we wander we do things that do not truly represent who we are. It is the actions of an automaton existing in this world rather than living. Breathing eating and walking but dead and lost in a sea of pain or fear. Doesn't matter what your issue is when you are lost you are lost and that's all there is to it. No one can get through to you and save you from yourself, our minds fight us every day to maintain perfect control. Maintain the original programming.
This is what makes choosing a path in life so hard. When you are growing up you are shaped and molded into what you become. Sometimes we have choices, but most of the time we are pushed and shaped so hard by the first few years of our lives that we have already been told by someone else whats right and wrong.
Who's right and wrong. What to be, who to be, how to be it, it all comes down to 99% of the knowledge you obtain by the time you are three years old is all you will USE to live your life until the day that you die.
Knowing how messed up this world already is slowly trickled down into this realization and I understood. We as humans are acting more and more like the blind leading the blind. We all have issues in some way, yet we were all born innocent in truth. No one has been born on this world truly evil, what makes us evil or good is how WE choose to react to what life dishes us out. Our tribulations and pains are shared universally by other humans on this planet either alive or dead YOU are not alone in your issues.
It only seems that way because because the things that cause darkness within us. Hate, doubt, fear, these things blind us to the silver linings. They make us see black instead of white, up instead of down. These emotions will control your mind and make you see only darkness.
Humanity is not evil or wrong. We are all of us born unique and good. We are not inherently evil for being born nor are we somehow in debt to anyone for our existence. We do not come to this place and this time in the universe to be punished. No one living is only alive because somewhere along the lines they did something bad and thus deserve to be punished.

Rather than write down a dusty old book full of my own personal rules I chose three simple things to live by.

Love
Love everyone you meet if you. When you meet someone with love in your heart and you accept them regardless of who they are, you open to them a realm of possibility. The possibility that they too can love and be loved back without rebuttal or retribution.

Duty

Duty means to me at least doing the things that need doing sometimes even if you do not wish to. Duty is being willing to stand by what you know in your heart is right. With love in your heart duty becomes a much lighter burden that is more easily fulfilled.
Respect

This above all seems to be the thing that we are losing the most. Love allows us to see the sides of people most others do not. This means that if we do anything in this world it should always be done with respect so that we do not upset the balance of things and lead to hardship.


These things all seemed so obvious to me after I thought about it and so I accepted them into my life as my standard. Am I romantically in love with the whole world, no. Do I love everyone at least a little bit every single day now, yes. It has made a change in my life that has been astounding. I see people differently now and I am more comfortable than I ever thought would be possible.


Not all that glitters is gold and this world is not the most horribly doomed place in existence. That place is reserved for broken hearts and lost souls. I love you all as much as I can, be safe and happy where ever you are.

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